‘Mend or Make’
In the last month I have been spring cleaning. There are numerous unfinished craft pieces I need to bin, mend or make. Then grief came for a visit…
It isn’t an easy process decluttering any household items and more so with specific craft pieces. So far the process of decluttering has a purpose on an emotional level too like grieving. The illustrated image I found on pixabay by John Hain encapsulates the grieving process perfectly.
I loss both parents to cancer as recently as 2016 and a beloved cat last June. It is still raw and sometimes all you can do is grieve. The grieving process recently came from decluttering my crafts and some pieces triggered my memories. It is unexpected and the best thing I can do personally is to go with it. Simply cry or I hand write out my immediate thoughts onto paper. It is very healing and cathartic to do so.
Thoughts written down somehow gives a release of emotions that spoken words can’t convey
Writing this blog piece wasn’t easy! It edited so many times but I have perservered.
‘Let go! your not a robot!’
Losing your parents are the tough ones and equally pets too. Both is a double whammy of grief. Last year while waiting in an airport lounge I came across an old co-worker who chatted about losing her husband. It took her three months to really acknowledge her lost. Like many she poured herself into her work with no days off. Of course it lead her to nearly breakdown so on advide took some time off to grieve. She found doing very long walks in all kinds of wild weather helped her to come to terms with her lost. It was the best thing to do in her opinion to let go, cry and mourn.
Some folks from what I have witnessed are like robots they become like workaholic machines. It usually occurs without them noticing. They keep them selves busy in order to stop any emotional release. They don’t see the importance of remembering and reflection. Verbally saying things like “its over they gone”, or “I am over the worst”, or “don’t talk about it concentrate on the present”. I disagree and yes it is in the past don’t dwell too much but remember yes. Never forget the impact they had on your life.
Grieving has a place and it is good to remember all those that were close to your heart
One example of grief I have recently gone through was not finishing a little crochet cat blanket I was creating a few years ago. After ackwoledging my feelings the blanket is nearly finished and I feel at last that is one craft near completion.
I shall keep it in case I get another cat in the future. Life does go on.
‘Crafts are awesome!’
Crafts and hobbies have a place to help relax and unwind the mind
I know grief has a pattern too. It passes. It is an important thread in the fabric of life. It is natural we can’t do everything we want to do but to forsaking hobbies is never a good thing! It is part of self caring, socialising, sharing and learning new skills. When time and energy permits I endeavour to spend time mending and hopefully knit a groovy jumper I have my eye on.
Time is precious but time to yourself and engage in a hobby is in my opinion essential to your wellbeing be it crochet, baking, writing and so on…